The following leaflet is given to all parents at 1st Gel Koropi and gives advices to the parents:

10 TIPS TO PREVENT BULLYING

10 Guidelines for Parents to Prevent Bullying

We refer to bullying when we speak of situations based on the "inequality" between the aggressor and the victim, in which a dominion-submission relationship is established and can be described as: actions, or behaviours where one or more students insult, defame, threaten, blackmail, spread rumours, beat, steal, break things, ignore or isolate others in a systematic and prolonged manner over time. These acts produce feelings of helplessness and inferiority in those who suffer them.

To this end, we offer you the following tips to prevent and detect bullying in good time:

Stay alert for warning signs:

If your child is suffering from bullying, may avoid going to class, be more nervous or withdrawn, have psychosomatic symptoms (stomach pain, headaches, vomiting, insomnia, etc.), his or her school material often disappears, if he or she loses interest in school or suddenly loses performance.

Stay calm:

Talk to him/her about his/her concerns and day-to-day life at school, giving him/her peace of mind. If we do not act calmly the children do not dare to tell their problems for fear of our reaction and to avoid distress, and therefore we will not be able to help them.

Talk to your child about how to solve problems:

Give him some examples of your difficulties and how you have known how to solve them. By doing so, you are showing him two important lessons: that we all have problems, that we are not alone, and that we need to count on him to find solutions.

Boosts your self-esteem:

Value that has to be unique and convey that your differences make you unique. Strive to make your child feel valued and loved, to have a healthy view of himself/herself and to accept his/her defects in a realistic way.

Contact the school and inform them of the situation:

Schools are obliged to get involved and take action, they must also act in cases of cyberbullying even if the harassment occurs outside the school. You can request a meeting with your child's guardian to discuss the situation. They will set up a protocol of action in which they will intervene: the tutor, guidance counselor, head of studies and management, to protect your child, to help him/her, to promote healthy and equal social relations, as well as to work with the student who is harassing him/her. If the harassment is taking place through New Technologies, there are specialized groups of the Police and the Guardia Civil that can be called upon to report the situation.

It asks the school to provide training on bullying and cyber-bullying, as well as on emotion management and conflict resolution:

The centres that carry out this type of activity, in addition to teaching basic life skills, identify situations that can still be prevented.

Help him to put his emotions into words too:

When your child is sad, angry or frustrated, connect with their emotion and teach them to understand and overcome their discomfort.

Teach him that there are limits:

That they cannot be transferred, either at home or abroad, and that violent acts have consequences for the perpetrator. Make sure you know the difference between being "popular" (because you are aggressive or harassing) and being accepted and loved by others because of your healthy way of relating.

Tell your child that if there is a situation of violence in the school, he or she must show solidarity:

Not defending a classmate and silencing the situation also means being part of the bullying game and strengthening the bully's position of power. "If you keep quiet, you become an accomplice and a passive aggressor in the face of harassment of another colleague." Help him or her to be empathetic : "put him or herself in the victim's place". Reflect with your child. If someone bullied you, how would you feel?

If your child shows violent attitudes to achieve an end, correct him/her:

Don't let this be the way you achieve your goals, and show him/her also through your example as a parent that goals are achieved without being violent. Learning to respect others is basic in any relationship of coexistence.

Questionnaires for assessing the school climate at Mirasur School in Spain 2017 -2018

At the end of the course, an evaluation of the school climate in our school was carried out. Students, families and staff of the school (teachers and non-teachers) have participated.

The students have answered a questionnaire to assess their coexistence and the school climate carried out by the Complutense University of Madrid which analyses factors related to bullying, social and personal skills, giving a personalised result for students with low levels of self-esteem and assertiveness.